No one wants to be around someone with a bad attitude, but exclusion actually enhances your negative mood. An unpleasant state of mind has the power to affect every aspect of your life, from work to relationships to your health.
This way of thinking is so damaging, that some professionals developed “attitude psychology”, a concept that began approximately 50 years ago with a psychologist named Carl Hovland. Since then, there has been some progress in developing a positive mental attitude but because the mind and behaviors are so complex, no one method can offer an easy or constant attitude adjustment.
You may develop a bad attitude due to a variety of factors, some of which are physical, environmental or learned, leading you to form a positive or negative perception about a specific topic, hence attitude. Some individuals always act in a negative manner while others are only condescending when under stress, sick, recall a bad memory or are hurt by another person.
If you happen to always be pessimistic or angry, then you have not learned about the good life has to offer or mastered the ability to turn a bad situation into one that is good. It is possible that the underlying cause of your negativity is a result of your upbringing or maybe you experienced more hardships than most people but if you have the desire to change the way you perceive unfortunate events or realize your caretakers were wrong in their approach, you can live a happier, healthier life.
To develop a positive attitude, you must first know that no absolute cure exists, that change takes time and persistence, and no one is always in a good mood. You should also be open to asking for help, either from a friend, a therapist or by joining a support group. T
his may be an idea you may not be comfortable with, but if you can push yourself to be open to trying this new activity, it shows you are serious and are taking a first step in the right direction.
One of the most important actions necessary to change your bad attitude is to become aware of your feelings. Ask yourself why you feel so down and take time to reflect on this answer, keeping in mind that your mood may have nothing to do with a present, or even recent past, event, as some people obtain and hold on to negative feelings from their childhood.
This answer may not be obvious, but do not develop a bad attitude or dwell on it. Often times, when you distract your mind you can find the answer you for which you are looking.
During your journey, you should start with smaller steps, since the bigger obstacles tend to take time and much more energy, as this may help prevent you from experiencing any discouragement or frustration. To turn a negative mood into a positive attitude, think of something to be grateful for, a happy thought, how achieving a goal would make you feel, the colors and smells around you or simply take a few deep breaths.
In the beginning, it is going to take time for you to find the technique that best helps you shift moods, so if you snap at someone, take a breather, apologize and then respond calmly. If you do this, the people around you are going to take notice and respect you for trying, which is likely to lay the foundation of more amicable relationships.
Deciding to change your bad attitude is the first step in the right direction and it means you are already aware of this flaw, have a desire to be happy and serious about living a better life.
Everyone wants to have friends, be successful, and live their own kind of happily ever after, which is why you want to have a positive attitude; it is human nature and going against your instincts is enough to make anyone miserable. Just remember to avoid giving up because you feel frustrated and be patient.